I became a
psychotherapist later in life, in my mid-50s. Decades earlier, I was director of customer services for a California software startup that is now a major part of a nearly billion-dollar operation. Let's explore how this concept ties in with success in both of these fields.
First, a
little background
Theory X and
Theory Y were the brainchild of 20th-century management professor Douglas
McGregor – who, in turn, was a student of famed psychologist Abraham Maslow. His
ideas have survived remarkably well into the 21st century.
Theory X
holds that employees fundamentally lack ambition, avoid responsibility, and
need to be pushed. Theory X managers feel unless you “motivate” employees with
rules, boundaries and consequences, they will goof off. Theory Y, on the other
hand, presumes that people have intrinsic motivation to do a good job when they
are shown respect and given agency.
Theory Y
management strategies have built some of the most successful businesses of all
time, by fostering autonomy and initiative at all levels of the organization.
Another surprising place you will find Theory Y is the military, who realized that you don’t want unmotivated slugs sharing a foxhole with you. Many
books have documented this trend, from the 1980s classic In Search of
Excellence to recent bestsellers like BrenĂ© Brown’s Dare to Lead.
My own corporate success was largely fueled by Theory Y principles - for example, team
involvement in hiring and policy decisions, cross-functional responsibilities,
and championing individual growth and achievement. Everyone felt heard,
respected, and had a reason to feel important when they walked in the door each
morning, and they in turn delivered. This helped our company grow rapidly and eventually go public. Later, I led another 24-hour call center operation to near-perfect customer satisfaction, near-zero turnover, and a 25% sales increase in the middle of a recession using a similar approach.
So, what
does any of this have to do with psychotherapy?
I
feel therapy for anxiety disorders has unwittingly made a hard turn towards Theory X over the past
several years. Since the 1970s, it has moved from a focus on relaxation and desensitization to a focus on sucking it up and facing your fears. Have a phobia? Go at it head-on. OCD compulsions? Turn the Nike slogan on its head and "just don't do it." Your kid has anxiety? Suck it up, Junior.
As a result of this, too many therapists now see
themselves as agents of confrontational change, whose job is to make clients face
up to what their symptoms are costing them, and then push them to “do the
work” of uncomfortable treatment strategies.
This is more
than a change in clinical technique – it is a cultural shift. For the record, I support techniques that involve facing your fears, like exposure therapy, when they are paced appropriately and delivered humanely and collaboratively. But too often, these approaches entail a power dynamic that revolves around pushing the reluctant to do the uncomfortable.
Anxiety
therapists who privately treat squeamish clients like
disobedient schoolchildren and debate how to “motivate” the non-compliant sound exactly like Theory X managers who try to push their lazy
employees to get back to work. And unfortunately, outcome studies show that these
clinicians often get similar results as these workplaces do – far from perfect. This is why I feel
strongly that the next frontier in anxiety treatment needs to also be a culture
change. Now, let’s explore this.
Bringing
Theory Y into the therapy room
I hear the same thing over and over again from clients and clinicians alike with lived
experience with anxiety disorders. Clinical strategy of course matters –
and often matters a lot – but one of the biggest factors in our recovery is often how much a therapist listens to us and collaborates with us.
Here are some of the things I’ve heard people describe about their real experiences
behind closed doors in treatment:
·
Therapists
try to “motivate” people to keep doing things that ultimately aren’t working
for them.
·
A
manualized treatment protocol takes precedence over the whole person sitting in
front of them, including factors such as trauma, life change, health status, neurodiversity,
and more.
·
Dr.
Wonderful decides how well the client is progressing, what their goals should
be, and how hard they should be working.
·
Stuck
points in treatment are presumed to be the fault of the client, and they are
branded as treatment failures or told to come back when they are “ready.”
All of these
spring from the same kind of Theory X "get back to work" mentality I experienced back when I was
a bored grocery store clerk in high school. Had these therapists adopted a
Theory Y mindset, regardless of the approach they used, I am convinced that they
would have had much better outcomes.
Here is how I would compare these mindsets:
Theory X anxiety treatment
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Theory Y anxiety treatment
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Have clients confront themselves with what their symptoms are costing them.
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Explore what a client’s own goals and motivations
are.
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Enforce accountability for treatment compliance.
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Check in with them and help them strategize next
steps.
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Push them to challenge themselves.
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Help them self-motivate by building on achievable
victories.
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Help clients face their fears.
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Help clients function better and expand their
boundaries.
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Focus on bravery.
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Focus on strategy.
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Assume that treatment failures are the fault of the
client.
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Assume that treatment failures are the fault of the
approach.
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If they remain stuck, dismiss them as a treatment
failure
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If they are stuck, meet them where they are at. Be
patient, flexible, and open to modifying your approach.
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Think like a tough-love coach.
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Think like a helpful consultant.
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Confront clients who aren’t working hard
enough to recover.
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NEVER EVER shame a client – listen and troubleshoot.
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In a very
real sense, a Theory Y approach could help self-regulate what clinical approaches
work best, by giving clients a voice in what is or isn’t working for them –
and in the process, build the kind of clinical relationships that give these approaches their very best chance of success. Unfortunately, this subtle but important
attitude rarely finds its way into either graduate school training or research
studies.
How
evidence-based is Theory Y?
Given the
amount of confounding factors in most organizations, much of the literature on
Theory Y’s effectiveness has taken the form of management case studies. However,
an ambitious multi-level
analysis performed in 2015 showed that Theory Y did, in fact, have a major
impact on organizational performance. McGregor himself
saw the need for some of both approaches, but clearly proposed his theory based
on the importance of motivation.
As for its
impact on psychotherapy, for now you’ll have to trust the observations of one
humble executive-turned-therapist in remote upstate New York: in my own experience,
clinical and personal, as well as those of my colleagues, it is a huge and
often game-changing factor in treatment motivation and therapy outcomes. To be
frank, I almost never hear people complain about treatment itself – they complain
about clinicians who judge them, shame them, push them, and pigheadedly insist
there is only one way – theirs, of course – to get well.
So my
advice? Get out of expert mode. Listen to your clients, be open to hearing and
trying new ideas, and don’t give up on people. Then watch what happens. Personally,
I firmly believe this will be the next frontier in effective anxiety treatment.
(Postscript: I received a very thoughtful comment on this blog, to the effect of "is there no place for urging bravery, or letting people know they aren't helping themselves get well?" And I agree 100%! (I also happen to believe this person is a very wise and humane therapist.)
Here's the difference in my mind, using the framework of Theory X versus Theory Y. Taking a Theory Y approach to leadership doesn't mean you can't ever fire or discipline employees. I've done both in my management career, when it was needed. Likewise, there are many testimonials (look, for example, at many IOCDF conference keynotes from recovered sufferers) where the right kind of tough love was life changing, and perhaps even life saving.
However, there is a big difference between firing an employee who is stealing the toilet paper or creating drama every day, versus a workplace full of rules and punishments where people are terminated constantly. Likewise, in the clinical realm, there is a huge difference between the using right kind of aikido in the treatment room when it is appropriate, versus a toxic and unhealthy power dynamic that doesn't listen to clients and regularly uses shame and confrontation as a treatment tool. I am fine with the former but not the latter.)